Lying to your kids


So last week was Little Boo at the Zoo, it is a trick-or-treating event for toddlers and preschoolers at the Toledo Zoo.  I look forward to Little Boo every year. I have been going for the past 6 years and this year was going to be my first with only one kiddo, (boo).  Our little Minnie Mouse had been looking forward to it and couldn’t wait to see all her friends. We made this a playgroup event so we would be seeing our friends, getting candy, and seeing animals…the toddler trifecta!! Haha!

Before we left I had to get a pic…(yes, I am that mom) she is saying candy…you can really tell by how big her eyes are, haha!

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My plan was to get in and out of the zoo within an hour, hour and a half, then attack my list of errands that was a mile long before picking up the older kiddos from school.  So you can imagine my astonishment when we drove up to the parking lot and the line started there! No joke!

What was going through my mind when I saw the line….

If I just abort the mission now and drive away my little Minnie Mouse will be heartbroken and let’s be totally honest, she will drive me insane the rest of the day!

If I stay there is no way I can even make a dent in my errands….I will be lucky if I get out in time to pick up the older kiddos from school.

I am the head organizer for our playgroup and the moms might be in line, or inside already, how am I supposed to find them?

Solution….

I kind of fibbed to my daughter. I wouldn’t call it a straight out lie because I was not initially trying to be deceitful. The last thing I wanted to do was hurt her. Plans simply had to change. We needed to be flexible with our day. But unfortunately a 3-year-old has no concept of being flexible. So I put it in terms she could understand.  I expressed to her that I had forgotten to get a reservation for this event and I was terribly sorry but I did make a reservation for the gift shop. Boy did her eyes get really big again. See we avoid gift shops at all cost at all times so this was kind of a big deal. So we walked past the LONG line and strolled on into the gift shop that was entirely empty…as if I had made exclusive reservations just for us, haha!

She lost her mind. She loved it! I total her she had $10 to spend as she pleased. So we perused the shop for a few minutes, she likes to know all her options. We even stopped for a quick photo op to commemorate this magnificent day.

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Bottom-line….

I totally lied to my child! Granted I have a whole slew of reasoning behind it and can totally justify my actions but truth is truth, and the truth is I lied. Which got me thinking, how often do I lie to my children and is it really that bad?

Turns out more often than I had assumed or would like to admit.

  • That same day we had a discussion over the dinner table about the Tooth Fairy.  See our 7 yrs. old only received $2 from the Tooth Fairy while our 6 yrs. old received $3. I suddenly found myself making up an entire fantasy about Tooth Fairies…talk about a lie that snowballed. There was no way I was going to break the news that mom and dad simply got their wires crossed.
  • During that same meal I convinced our 3-year-old to eat her food by expressing that it was Minnie Mouse’s favorite (FYI: If my child claims that carrots and meatloaf are Minnie Mouse’s favorite food just go with it)
  • The next day at breakfast our daughter was crossing her eyes and making funny faces and I told her that if she kept doing it her face would get stuck.
  • I told our 3-year-old not to swallow her gum because it takes years to leave the body…simply in an effort to get her to stop eating gum. (Update: She busted me that afternoon after taking a BM she made certain I notice that the gum came out of her body).
  • At the store the kiddos were distracted and we needed to get going. I explained we need to go now and if they chose to stay that they will want to contact the manager and see if he is hiring.
  • And I am sure you could tell that whole reservation story came too easily. This was not my first Rodeo…I use the reservation concept all the time…movies, toy stores, etc. “We have to make a reservation” is a phrase that commonly escapes my mouth.
  • Santa Claus
  • The Easter Bunny

Turns out I might just be one perpetually lying mother. Are you? When was the last time you lied to your child? Did you do it as motivation? Maybe as a control mechanism? And, is it really that bad? When have you crossed that line…when does the lying become detrimental? Please share.

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10 Comments on “Lying to your kids”

  1. October 24, 2013 at 3:08 am #

    I read this as I was waiting for Katie to stop crying because “Chuckie Cheese was closed today for private parties”. IF, and that’s a big if, we take Katie to Chuckie it’s on a weekday and before 5. I just can’t stand that place when it’s busy. Mike got off early so Katie begged to go there today. We pull up and there are 6 school buses in the parking lot. HECK NO! I don’t do Chuckie with 6 school buses full of kids. So the lie fell out of my mouth before I could even think. The tears started and lasted for 15 minutes. We let her pick what she wanted for dinner to “make up” for Chuckie closing for the day. Katie ate eggrolls and corn bread and was happy the rest of the night.

    -Playland closes for cleaning at least 5 times a month and it just so happens it’s on the days Katie wants to go.
    -Same thing for Imagination Station.
    -After watching Monsters Inc a million times, a Randal monster suddenly started appearing in Katie’s closet at 3 in the morning. Now we know Daddy killed Randal and fed him to the kitties (yes, violent and wrong. But it worked and she is proud of her warrior daddy).
    -On certain days, kids aren’t allowed in Rite Aid because they are using special cleaning chemicals that kids can’t be around. This is when I am too lazy to go inside and we send my husband in.

    We all do it!

    • October 25, 2013 at 12:15 am #

      Lol! I love it Tammy! Chuckie Cheese is also one of those places where we need a reservation…and often times they are booked till next year, haha! I am totally stealing the “closed for cleaning” fib (makes me kind of wish some of those places were actually closed for cleaning, haha!).
      Daddy killed Randall…love it! Watch that one slip out at church or school, haha!
      Thank you for sharing Tammy. It is nice to know I am not the only one…oh the things we do to maintain our sanity…and our kiddos.

  2. October 24, 2013 at 3:15 am #

    Poor Izzy could not watch Caillou today because he was taking a nap 😉

  3. October 24, 2013 at 4:21 pm #

    All the time. “You ate your peas…I think I just saw your muscle get bigger.” We had a total Jerry MacGuire moment last week….All I heard was “I want to go to the zoo. Let’s go to the zoo” over and over again. I refrained my Jerry M. F-bomb when I told him “The zoo is closed.” Due to the guilt I ended up taking him to the zoo Monday after preschool.

    • October 25, 2013 at 12:22 am #

      Haha! A child repeating anything is enough to drive even the sanest of people insane! That darn mommy guilt, it always creeps up! I hope you had a lovely time at the zoo. Thanks for sharing When the Kids go to Bed 🙂

  4. sassypants
    October 25, 2013 at 1:11 am #

    My kids have just this summer realized that the truck that goes down the street is not the “music truck” that plays for all the kids but in fact sells ice cream! Bizarre :*)

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