Infertility happens…and it sucks!

The “Infertility worksheet”, she handed it to us after eight months of trying and four months of charting. I sat for a few seconds staring at the boldness of each letter. It was official, it was written in ink, it was the stamp that sealed the deal- we had infertility issues. Well I guess we knew we did, after almost a year without success and then finally seeking professional help for fertility. Infertility can be a long and lonely journey filled with hopeless dreams and endless heartache.

1 in 8 couples (or 12% of married women) have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining pregnancy (2006-2010 National Survey of Family Growth, CDC)

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When we first married, as a bride about to turn 30 with the dream of a big family, we were hoping for, and really thought we would have, a honeymoon baby. We even made a list of baby names (first and middle names!) as we waited in line for our luau, enjoyed Mai Tais, and walked the beach in Maui. It was such an exciting and hopeful time.

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Sadly, we did not have a honeymoon baby, but we kept our chins up and enjoyed our time as newlyweds. We figured the big fat positive would have to turn up some month soon. It just had to; we were young, healthy, very much in love and trying our best. Many friends and acquaintances we knew married and had honeymoon babies after all, how hard could it really be just to conceive?! Especially this day and age, when so many try to avoid pregnancy, it all seemed so unfair.

I recall a moment, quite vividly, at a Mexican restaurant when an acquaintance announced her pregnancy. They found out a few weeks after returning home from their honeymoon. She noted they weren’t even trying! I must admit it was hard for me to find a smile for a quick second. I did it, I smiled and I genuinely congratulated and even shared her joy. I really was happy for her. But somehow it added to the sting of the last nine months we had been trying, without success. The many moments I felt like I was letting my husband down, myself down, that my body wasn’t even working like a women’s body should. The moments when the hope and the ache-like longing to hold and nurture a child of my own slipped away as I grabbed a Kotex and a Kleenex- yet again.

The moments when the hope and the ache-like longing to hold and nurture a child of my own slipped away as I grabbed a Kotex and a Kleenex- yet again.

It was hard to stay positive. I was excited and happy for these women, the Facebook baby bumps I saw growing every month as we continued our perpetual wait. I found the patience to listen to other women venting about trying not to conceive and the challenge to avoid pregnancy due to recent birth or family size/issues. Many couples our age were already having three to four children. The pressure was mounting. We even took a month “off”. We needed an emotional break from it all.

We eventually worked with a great Napro Technology Physician, after about a year of trying. He looked at our chart, gave us a treatment plan – Peak Plus Progesterone?! Who knew?- and told us it should be anytime the next three months. Three months later it was there, finally! The long awaited big fat positive sign! Well eight of them (you’re welcome Clearblue, First Response and all generic brands) it was too good to be true! Our story is all too real for many couples and we did find our issue, and we are now enjoying our beautiful son. But, wow! What a journey it has been and still is, this infertility journey.

Three months later it was there, finally! The long awaited big fat positive sign!

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The pregnancy was a bit bumpy with Tuesday and Friday Progesterone injections. Endless thanks to my husband for being willing to administer these minute long injections with the now infamous butt needles. We did do this for most of the pregnancy and it was so worth it. We even saved the extra butt needles for the next pregnancy. The next pregnancy, here we go again, hopefully. We have been trying for six months. We will be meeting with our doctor again soon!

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Every couple has their struggles. Honestly, and I can hardly believe it as I type it, this has been a blessing overall. I find myself taking stock of all the good that we do have, not the baby I wish we did have. When I see that negative appear I take great effort to turn away from despair. I take a breath and take count of what I do have. I am so thankful we have a beautiful, healthy little boy. I am so grateful I get to try to keep making babies with my amazing, and did I mention he is easy on the eyes, husband. I am hopeful for the future of our family, for more children either biological or adopted. Infertility happens. And it does suck.  Finding hope, and dare I say gratitude, is my response (most days).

Infertility happens. And it does suck. Finding hope, and dare I say gratitude, is my response (most days).

God bless all you women out there trying, you are not alone! And please seek professional help if you have been trying without success. We highly recommend the Creighton Model, NaPro Technology method.

 

Time to REBOOT the Family Goals for 2019

Did you set Realistic Family Goals for 2019?

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the mass popularity of resolution-setting at the start of each year. With everyone setting broad aspirations for themselves in all areas of their lives, it can be difficult to decide what areas of your own life should be your focus for positive growth and development. When these feelings of confusion and indecisiveness set in, it’s sometimes helpful to bring your attention to the thing that means the most to you in this world: your family. Making your family the central focus of your goals for the New Year can help you to decide what your priorities are and how, specifically, you want to improve life for yourself and for the people you care about most. I know we are two months into the New Year but it is never too last to set those goals….better yet, what if you set goals each month? March is just around the corner, let’s set the following goals for the first of March; and let’s officially REBOOT the Family Goals for 2019!!

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Pick Up a New Hobby Together

Have your kids expressed interest in playing a sport, taking dance lessons, or learning an instrument? Encourage their curiosity, and find a way to support them in starting their new activity! Take them to the park to kick around a soccer ball, or show them the basics of an instrument you might already know how to play.

Better yet, seek out new activities that you and your child can do for the first time together! Enroll in a community art class, or take an afternoon to learn how to go geocaching. Pursue opportunities that will help you both to learn a fun new skill while maximizing the amount of quality time you get to spend with each other.

Introduce the Kids to Something You Once Loved

What games did you love to play when you were growing up? What music did you listen to? Did you have any unusual (or decade-specific) hobbies or interests?

Give the kids a better sense of who you were as a child and what made you into the person you are today. Show them some of the things you loved when you were their age, and teach them something about the way the world used to be. Get them away from their screens for a while, and prove to them that fun can still be had while being present in the non-virtual world.

 

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Plan a Mini-Vacation

Can’t swing a week-long trip to Disney this year? Take a weekend to go on a road trip instead! Whether it’s to a nearby lake, the next state over, or the town you grew up in, spending a couple of days of light travel with the kids can make for an incredible bonding opportunity. If you can manage it, make it a tech-free weekend for everyone so you can properly enjoy each other’s company. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant or expensive– if the focus is placed on the time you’re spending together and the experiences you’re sharing, mini-vacations can be some of the most meaningful experiences of your children’s young lives.

Tackle Your Finances

Make this the year you take full control of your financial life. Spend some time learning how to properly budget your personal expenses. Treat deposits to your savings like a regularly scheduled bill payment, and get on a consistent schedule of building up your account. If your kids are at an age where they’re starting to be able to understand money, open up a candid dialogue with them about the family’s finances. If you’re still working on paying off college debt, explore the possibility of refinancing your student loans to lower the monthly cost. Get to work on your taxes well in advance to avoid due date stress. When you’re able to accurately keep track of where your money is going and how it’s being allocated, you’ll find that you’ll have a greater capacity for devoting your attention to the things that are most important to you.

Pursue New Experiences, Not New Items

It might be tempting to spend your extra cash on a cute date night outfit, new exercise equipment, or the latest XBox for the kids, but why not instead put that money toward making memories with the people you love? Material possessions are ultimately temporary, and while they might bring you happiness in the short term, they aren’t the things that will bring your life greater meaning. On the other hand, going to new places and trying out new activities with your family will bring you shared joy, renewed closeness, and broadened perspectives on the world that will last you a lifetime.

 

Happy March 2019! Let’s make it a great one!

 

Charlie and the Chocolate Factory Family 4-Pack Ticket Giveaway

WINNER ANNOUNCED! Congratulations to Andrea Pietras

CLICK HERE to receive discount on tickets!

 

Hold your breath, make a wish, count to three…come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination in Toledo, Ohio. Toledo, Ohio?! That’s right! Roald Dahl’s amazing tale is now Toledo’s golden ticket! It’s the perfect recipe for a delectable treat: songs from the original film, including “Pure Imagination,” “The Candy Man,” and “I’ve Got a Golden Ticket,” alongside a toe-tapping and ear-tickling new score from the songwriters of Hairspray. Get ready for Oompa-Loompas, incredible inventions, the great glass elevator, and more, more, more at this everlasting showstopper!

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Charlie & the Chocolate Factory will be live on stage at the Stranahan Theater, March 19-23! And Mom on the go in Holy Toledo followers have the opportunity to be entered to win a family 4-pack tickets to the opening night performance!! (Tuesday, March, 19th @ 7:30pm)

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WHERE:

Stranahan Theater, 4645 Heatherdowns Blvd, Toledo, OH, 43614

 

SHOW DATES & TIMES:

Tuesday, March 19, 2019: 7:30 p.m.

Wednesday, March 20, 2019 7:30 p.m.

Thursday, March 21, 2019: 2:00 p.m.

Thursday, March 21, 2019: 7:30 p.m.

Friday, March 22, 2019: 8 p.m.

Saturday, March 23, 2019: 2 p.m.

Saturday, March 23, 2019: 8 p.m.

TICKET INFO

Click on link for ticket info, https://americantheatreguild.com/toledo/charlie/

CONTEST

Enter to win Charlie & the Chocolate Factory Family 4-pack tickets for opening night performance, March 19th @ 7:30pm

HOW TO ENTER:

1-Share this post on Facebook

2- Comment on the BLOG with the answer to the following question: What character from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory said, “Holy Toledo, what’s happening to your face?!”?

Winner will be randomly selected March 3rd @ noon

Time with my Teenage Daughter: Abduction or a Coffee Date?

I met up with a friend for lunch the other day and she asked, “So, what’s it like having a teenager?”.  My response…honestly, some moments it amazing, others it’s like living in the twilight zones, and then there was this experience….

I felt like I was Hellen Keller on the witness stand being cross-examined by the prosecutor! I thought I was clearly vocalizing my words, expressing what I saw, & hearing what she was saying….but her rebuttal was, you’re not listening, that’s not even what happened, & AND YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND! How did we get here?! What happened to my daughter?! Let me backtrack.

So, it was Valentine’s Day morning and I was rushing my oldest to school per our usual, isn’t it exciting to see just how close we can cut it to school starting without being late routine. And moments before we left the house she broke down in tears. I asked, “What’s wrong” and she said, “Nothing”….and then we did that in rounds for a few minutes & got in the car. Finally, moments before rushing into school she told me she would tell me what was wrong later….fast forward to later, at home, in our kitchen. At this point I was sick of hearing myself ask the question, but I was genuinely concerned, so I went for it….she exclaimed that she didn’t want to tell me with her siblings all around and constantly eavesdropping. She has a valid point; they are like little spies just waiting to report back to headquarters, I mean mom/dad at the drop of any infraction. So I decided to remove her from the environment and then hopefully she’d talk.

It was finally happening, we were going to have one of those amazing mother/daughter bonding moments over coffee, like the Gilmore Girls! She would open up, spill everything, we’ll laugh, we’ll cry, and then get up at midnight to dance in the snow. Well, we did get in the car and headed for coffee, but it wasn’t exactly a Gilmore Girls kinda moment, more of an Unsolved Mysteries child abduction moment, you could practically hear Robert Stack narrating as I drove……”what started off as a warm, welcoming mother/daughter moment took a turn for the worst when her mother abducted her claiming they were just going for coffee!”.

She starred at me like any abducted child would, or at least what I would assume an abducted child would look like, this was my first time. She inquired, “why are you doing this?!”, as she put her headphones on. Did she suddenly catch amnesia somewhere between the front door and the car? “Um, hello, we are going to grab coffee and talk somewhere where the little spies, I mean your siblings, aren’t around, remember?” Radio silence….headphones?!  TAKE OFF THE HEADPHONES!! “Monica’s mom let’s her wear her headphones in the car”. “And I’m sure Monica’s mom let’s her jump off bridges too!…or something like that”. Clearly I was derailing! We arrived at the coffee shop & surprisingly unlike an abducted child who would sprint from the car she cemented her butt to the seat and refused to go in! What the hell?! “Don’t you want a coffee? I’ll even splurge for a fancy drink; get a Frappe Mocha Latte Ohh La La.”  Eye-roll, eye-roll, eye-roll…and looked the other way out the window.  Since when did a fancy coffee drink go from a “treat” status to torture?  “We are going IN! Even if we just sit and stare at each other! GET. OUT. OF. THE. CAR!”  And… at a snails speed she made her way out of the car and into the coffee house where she refused anything to eat or drink.  I ordered a tea and we sat. “So what was the deal this morning? Are you okay? Did something happen at school?” I asked in my kindest most caring voice. Nothing! “This morning you were crying, are you okay?” I warmly expressed as I leaned closer to her. And as if my body language could kill, she pushed her chair away from me and sat in disgust. I was half tempted to ask if she was waiting for her lawyer…she’s good. We sat in silence for 15 minutes then left. So much for our awesome mother/daughter bonding time!

Once in the car I tried my last attempt….”I know life is hard, you were crying this morning…sometimes we feel alone. You told me you were going to share its okay that you didn’t, but please know you’re not alone, I’m here”. She replied…”you’re not listening, that’s not even what happened, & AND YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND!” And with that the flood gates opened. I tried everything to stop them! The rest of the way home I carefully watched my speedometer because if I did get pulled over by the cops I feared what would come out of this child’s mouth next.

As I walked inside the house, mascara running, and my son asked, “What’s wrong?” And I replied,   “Nothing”, as I wiped the tears away feeling totally depleted.

I feel like moms of teenage daughters should have a support group…whose with me?

He just doesn’t make me Happy Anymore

You should leave because you deserve someone who makes you happy! We’ve all heard this phrase before, often well intended & coming from a place of concern, but is it really the best advice? We’re delving into the topic of happiness today click on link to hear our take. Who is ultimately responsible for your happiness? Does responsibility fall on your spouse? Is it possible to be happy all the time? If we allow our feelings & emotions to run the show 24/7 are we the equivalent of an adolescent?

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S’more Pie Pops (wtol segment)

Morning, loves!!

Here’s the recipe from the segment on WTOL this morning. Huge thank you to all who were able to take the time to watch, I’m working on getting a link of the segment…I’ll keep ya posted! In the meantime here’s the recipe & be sure to checkout Wholly Wholesome’s website for more allergy friendly awesome recipes. https://www.whollywholesome.com/recipes.php

Valentine’s Activities & Events for Kids in Toledo

Valentine’s Activities & Events for Kids in Toledo

Chocolate & heart shaped everything! Valentine’s Day is just around the corner! Here’s a list of activities for kids of all ages, toddler, tweens, & everything in between. Know of something fun going on around town that didn’t make the list? Please share! Tag friends and make plans today!

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Candy Sushi (Tweens 9-13)

Discover a new twist on sushi! Put your own spin on this Japanese-styled recipe using rice crispies, gummy bears, and other candies

Phone: 419.259.5310

Where: Oregon Library 3340 Dustin Rd. Oregon, OH 43616

Website: http://events.toledolibrary.org/event/1192507

When: Feb. 12th 4-5pm

Cost: FREE & no registration required

(Kids ages 5-10 can join in the fun 6-7pm…..Celebrate Valentine’s Day at Oregon Library, make crafts, enjoy treats, and have fun!)

 

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Valentine Headband & Love Bug Tiny Tots Craft @ Learning Express (Ages 2+)

This week’s Tiny Tots Craft Class is Valentine themed! Little ones love to get creative and have fun!

Phone: 419.885.3959

Where: Learning Express in Sylvania

Website: https://www.facebook.com/events/426362668105162/

Cost: FREE EVENT RSVP required for material prep

 

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Lovely Frames (Ages 6 and up Kids Club) @ Michael’s Craft Store

They craft, you shop! Kids 6 and up can enjoy making a Valentine’s frame. Sign up in store or online, or just drop in. Parent or guardian must remain on premises during the event.

Phone: (419) 475-4296

Where: 4622 Talmadge Rd, Toledo, OH 43623

Website: https://classes.michaels.com/OnlineClasses/control/classDetails?classId=18998 &storeScheduleId=5474887&sessionId=4777523 &storeId=9428&categoryId=

When: February 9, 2019 10AM – 12PM

Cost: $5

 

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5th Avenue Bistro

Phone: (419) 517-5311

Where: 5577 Monroe St Sylvania, Ohio 43560

Website: https://www.5thstreetpub.com/

When: Saturdays noon-2pm

Cost: Only $5 per kid

Looking for a fun family friendly date day location? 5th Avenue Bistro has you covered! Kids make pizzas every Saturday from noon – 2pm with Chef Bruce! It’s only $5 per kid, and it’s a lot of fun. Their Chef is very patient with the kiddos.

 

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FREE Family Movie Matinee @ Sanger

Enjoy the Sunday Matinee, Hidden Figures….The story of a team of female African-American mathematicians who served a vital role in NASA during the early years of the U.S. space program.

Phone: 419-259-5370

Where: Sanger Branch Library 3030 W Central Ave. Toledo, OH 43606

Website: http://events.toledolibrary.org/event/1232286

When: Sunday, February 10 2:00pm – 4:15pm

Cost: FREE

 

 

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Sweets for your Sweet (ALL AGES)

Get ready for Valentine’s Day! Ms. Dorothy will show everyone how to make chocolate candies that you can keep for yourself or give to someone special.

Phone: 419.259.5220

Where: Toledo Heights Library 423 Shasta Dr. Toledo, OH 43609

Website: http://events.toledolibrary.org/event/1185445

When: Tuesday, February 12 6:00pm – 7:30pm

Cost: FREE & no registration required

 

 

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I Paint the Sky @ BGSU’s Planetarium

Program feature a star talk showing the current evening sky followed by the multimedia planetarium show, I Paint the Sky, a guide to the beautiful colors in the sky.

Phone: (419) 372-2421

Where: 112 Physical Sciences Lab Bld, Bowling Green, OH 43403

Website: https://www.bgsu.edu/arts-and-sciences/physics-and-astronomy/bgsu-planetarium

When: February 10th at 7:30pm, February 15th at 8pm, & February 16th at 2pm

Cost: $1

 

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FREE Family Movie Matinee The Princess Bride @ Sanger

Enjoy the Sunday Matinee, The Princess Bride…. While home sick in bed, a young boy’s grandfather reads him a story called The Princess Bride.

Phone: 419-259-5370

Where: Sanger Branch Library 3030 W Central Ave. Toledo, OH 43606

Website: http://events.toledolibrary.org/event/1215587

When: Sunday, February 17 2:00pm – 4:00pm

Cost: FREE