“I’m going out with some friends!” For most parents, this phrase is as cherished as it is worrisome the first time they hear it. Letting your teen out on their own for the first time can be overwhelming. And it’s understandable. After all, they’re still a child in your eyes, and you only want to make sure they get home safe and happy. These are some new driver tips on how defensive driving helps avoid accidents.Read more
Most parents prioritize teaching their kids to both understand and engage with different cultures through common tactics like regular family trips abroad. Unfortunately, with safe family vacations still very much off the cards, many children are quickly falling behind in this respect, and many parents are realizing that they could do way better to expose their children to cultural differences, even at home.Read more
Everybody knows that today’s world is a stressful place to live in, by anyone’s standards. We are all experiencing huge shifts, personally and in our communities, due to the coronavirus pandemic, political changes and environmental changes too. Every family has moments of stress and worry, and these things can’t always be helped.Read more
Being a parent does not mean that a successful career is out of the question; it just means that your goals may change and develop slightly. You can still be a hands-on mom and a driven businesswoman – despite what people may think. With that in mind, here are some easy ways in which you can begin to achieve your career goals.Read more
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I am showing all the signs of an overscheduled Mombie, are you? Here are 5 Signs you are an Overscheduled Mombie:
1. No time to get the maintenance done on your 2nd home a.k.a vehicle
I had a mini panic attack while trying desperately to find a two hour window when I could get our 2nd home, our SUV, in for some much needed mechanic work. How on Earth was I going to make this happen? I need the car for morning drop-offs, preschool pick-up, play dates, dr. appointments, school pickup, after school activities. If only there was a mechanic that came to your house around midnight, took your vehicle, worked on it, ran your credit card, and then left it in your driveway so it was ready to go in the morning, could you imagine? A girl can dream. So, I have a vehicle that has been neglected maintenance for far too long and if I don’t get it in I won’t be able to maintain our busy schedule but because of our busy schedule I can’t find a window of time to get the work done…can you relate to this dilemma?
2. You look and act like a Zombie
I told myself years ago that I would never be “that mom”, you now the type, they look like Zombies with their dark circles under their eyes, expressionless faces, they have lost the will & strength to carry on a conversation, sometimes even have trouble forming words! Shuffling one child to baseball practice, another to dance, while going through the drive-thru with the 3rd before their piano lesson, only to do it all over again in a half hour. No, that wasn’t going to be me or my family. We were going to sit down every evening for dinner together, discuss our days, and after the children had cleared the table they could play with their friends outside, you know, a real life Leave it to Beaver type of a family! I was going to have more control over my children’s scheduling, they would have limited activities, and faith would remain of utmost importance. I had it all figured out back when my children were still in preschool. And then they grew!! And life threw us some curve balls.
3. The Family Table is a distant memory
After working at his old place of employment for 15 years my husband got a new job, one that involves travel. So I can kiss those dreams of all us sitting down as a family every evening goodbye. But that’s okay, we all need to make sacrifices along the way and we made this decision together and felt it was the best for our family but that doesn’t mean it is easy. And that idea of the children clearing the table and then going off to play with their friends, yeah, not happening. Why? Well, it’s rather simple, most of them are either at a different parent’s house, at afterschool care, or at an after school activity. So what do you do? Can’t beat them, then join ’em! And that is precisely what we did, though I didn’t realize it in the beginning. It was more like that frog in hot water analogy; it was a slow progress to arrive where I am today, as an official Zombie mom= Mombie!!
4. Your Priorities are askew
I rationalized ALL of it! First and foremost, of utmost importance is my children’s faith life. God has entrusted me with these miraculous little souls and I want to do my best to make certain I guide them and provide them with a faith driven life (you will see the irony of this in a few sentences). And since they do not attend a Catholic school I made certain they were enrolled in religious education classes. Thus, religious education classes were not open to a discussion attendance was mandatory and only once a week for 1-1/2 hours. That in addition to the rosary and reading the bible in the evenings was going to provide a nice foundation for their Faith lives during weekdays.
But then our kiddos started learning about all the other fun activities that other children were participating in, like chess club, boy scouts, swimming, basketball/baseball (seasonal sports), etc. And I rationalized it all….sports are a great way to teach teamwork & get some exercise, chess club is a fun way to exercise your brain, etc. And then suddenly in the evenings we were way too tired for the rosary and reading the bible so I did the next logical thing, or so I thought at the time, I had my daughter join Little Flower Girl’s Club because there she could learn about the virtues and about the Saints while I rushed her sibling around. Mind you the idea behind the club is that mothers and daughter spend this time together but I couldn’t be in two places at once so my mom offered to attend. Did I just delegate my child’s faith life entirely onto others? YEP! And here’s the REAL KICKER, Boy Scouts, Little Flower girls club, and religious education all fall on the same day & times (ever been in 3 places at once!?) and since my children’s faith is of utmost importance to me I would clearly make certain they attended religious education class, right!? WRONG!
5. You have lost sight of the true Joys of Motherhood & are hearing your kids but NOT listening to them
I have to be 100% honest, before Spring Break I felt tired, overstressed, unappreciated, I was feeling like a motherhood failure. I figured it was just me; something was clearly wrong with me. I had never ever considered the thought that the problem might be with our schedule. But then we had Spring Break and no extracurricular activity and guess what I found over that week? I found the joys of motherhood again. The fog lifted, I had more patience, I wasn’t angry or stressed, I enjoyed hearing and ACTUALLY LISTENING to my little ones thoughts, dreams, questions, etc. I wasn’t simply waiting for silence and replying or nodding my head…I could actually process what they were saying, form a complete thought, share, and patiently await their reply, it was the most refreshing feeling!! I so enjoyed our leisure conversations over meals, no rushing off with dinner in hand or grabbing food on the go.
Solution: If it’s broke FIX IT!
Things need to change. In all this running children around and being the sole caregiver at home I have practically lost myself…gone are the days were I would attend book club and get out a couple times a month. This schedule is wearing me down and I think the family is suffering. But I think what really pisses me off is the fact that I know things need to change but I have almost found comfort as a Mombie because it is familiar. I am literally sitting at the intersect of change & comfortable, I could maintain the same course and sink further into my Mombiehood or go for change. But change is scary; I can’t even see the road ahead…which is really scary for a gal who lives in NW Ohio where it is so flat you can see miles ahead. Haha!
So, are you showing any of these signs? How do you keep your family from overscheduling? How do you say no without feeling guilty?
I am super excited to have Guest Blogger Brandi from withBrandi here today!! She is an amazing & relatable mommy blogger. The kid-friendly foods & activities she shares are brilliant & fun! She is a glass is half-full type of gal with her positive outlook and one of those rare peeps who you instantly feel a connection with…to sum it up, she is pretty awesome! And she has a way with words…but don’t take my word for it, read on. Enjoy!!
Do you come here often? I know you, don’t I? Can I buy you a drink? Single pickup lines fortified by liquor courage to start up a conversation, a conversation that could lead to a relationship, or at the very least a fun night out. Oh the wonderful world of dating. AMEN, after more than seven years of marriage the days of pickup lines are over, but are they?
Can we just admit that meeting good quality mom friends can be just as challenging as finding the right one and I don’t know about you but having mom friends is vital to my sanity.
If you think about it meeting a new mom friend really isn’t too much different than being in the single world.
I’ll see a mom at the park or in the grocery store line whose demeanor or child interaction just screams friend quality. Or maybe she orders my exact order in front of me at Starbucks. Or I overhear her on the phone using the same tone of voice as I do when talking to her husband about this or that.
Of course there are tons of other ways to meet great moms besides the random sightings. So many great online resources to find mom groups. I’m a member of a national and local group, Mom-mentum. I’ve also been known to turn a virtual friend I connect with through blogs and turn them into an in-person friend, including our very own Kat.
The Pick Up Line
I have classic mom pick-up lines I use. “How old is he/she?” or “What school does he/she attend.” referring to the child. “Busy time of the year, right?” This pretty much works anytime of the year, because let’s face it as a mom it’s a given you are busy All. The. Time.
If you are looking for friendships with other moms, don’t ever be afraid to reach out. One of my closest mom friend was from a conversation in line at our local deli shop.
Sometimes it’s a dud attempt, but sometimes when the friend universe aligns a meaningful conversation takes place, sometimes so much so that contact information is exchanged and a friendship begins.
The first date with a mom may be a little nerve wrecking. What if we don’t have enough in common? What if our kids don’t get along? What if junior has a complete and utter embarrassing meltdown?
It’s worth the chance. It really is. You never know what great lifetime friendships can be forged if given the chance.
Yes, mom friendships are a lifeline for me. I have learned to stop googling for resources and support and turn to my friends who are on the motherhood track with me. When the daily drudgery is drowning me, I can always count on my mommy friends to re-energize, refocus, and recharge my spirit. Motherhood can be lonely. It just can. Sometimes it’s tough to make the time for friendships when there’s nap time, rehearsals, practices, kids getting sick, but having others who understand that is the beauty of friendships in motherhood. There’s just something about knowing I’m not alone on this mom island that makes life more doable.
Brandi Walerius is the author of withBrandi.com, a dealership wife, mom to boys, entrepreneur at Black & White Consulting, content writer, HR and business consultant, passion seeker, former college cheerleader, outgoing introvert (yeah, it’s complicated) and a believer in pink, early mornings, coffee as a necessity, and happily ever afters.
“Mom, you kinda look like a homeless person”. “Thanks son, that’s the look I was going for, sounds like I nailed it!” I exclaimed as we made a mad dash to the car. This is not the morning I had anticipated! It all started with my phone alarm not going off. Well, technically it did I just didn’t have the volume high enough, or on, clearly a manufacturer’s flaw!! So we overslept.
I rushed downstairs to scramble eggs. Why eggs? Why not a simple breakfast of cereal & milk? Because I hate myself! No, really, it was my genius idea to have healthier breakfasts so I only bought oatmeal & eggs. There is literally no cereal in our house, no bars, nothing remotely convenient!! Oh how I strongly dislike myself sometimes!!!! (I am also trying to not use the word hate, because it is just a horrible word…but honestly if it was possible to kicked my own butt this morning I would have!!) While the children grumbled about the eggs I ran upstairs and grabbed clothes off my floor to wear. Yes, sometimes I am worse than the children! Then the scavenger hunt began! What, you don’t havethose at your house in the morning!? We were all frantically searching for a jeans pass because my 3rd grader wasn’t going to wear her school dress code pants & she just received a pass in her student of the month packet….our little responsible student of the month! See the irony in that? But I was interrupted and had to forfeit my place in the scavenger hunt to help the 4 yr. old that just spilt water all over the pants she was going to wear to school!! So I hit up the dirty clothes pile in search of the least dirty pants. And I found a winner!! We rushed downstairs where we hurried along the finishing touches.
I did the girls hair. I put adorable pigtail braids in one and bun in the other; I must admit I was quite pleased and astonished at my mad hair skills this morning. And then I turned my head for a moment and the adorable pigtail braids were out!! Grrrr!!! Mind you I hadn’t even run a brush through my own hair and now I had to do my 4 yr. olds hair a second time!! And with a mere five minutes till we had to be in the car. Infuriating!! I had to fix it. She looked like a wild child, like her hair had literally been through a hurricane; she looked like, like me!!
So I stood there with my own hair all disheveled. 3rd grader was telling me the latest happenings on animal planet…she is like a walking animal encyclopedia that doesn’t have a mute button. I love her to pieces but this morning I didn’t need to hear all about the paragon falcon for the 8th time!! Meanwhile the 1st grader, the inventor, was completing the charging station he created with Legos and was in desperate need of help getting 2 tiny Legos separating!! It took everything in me not to chuck those little Legos across the room. I managed to separate them, break a nail in the process but it was a small price to pay and there wasn’t much blood. But we were getting down to the wire. I rushed to put 4 yr. olds hair in a ponytail. I stood there brushing her hair when all of a sudden this warm, wet sensation hit my pant leg and filled my shoe. It was pee!! The puppy peed on me! He literality peed on me! And with no time to spare we made a mad dash out the door. And that is when my sweet son looked up at my disheveled hair, stained shirt, peed on pants, and shoe filled with urine that he so kindly exclaimed, “Mom, you kinda look like a homeless person”.
This experience really got me thinking about how blessed I am. I was able to come home, brush my hair, shower, change my clothes, etc. but there are so many who are homeless who do not have that luxury. Who do not have clean clothes!! But what if there was a way that you could help clothe the homeless? And what if there might also be something in it for you? Do I have your attention now? Clothe Ohio does just that!!
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Disclosure: I received Clothe Ohio shirts for review, no other compensation was received, all thoughts & opinions are my own.