Kat’s Words of Wisdom

This past weekend I celebrated my birthday!

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I am officially another year older and wiser.  So, what have I learned in my past 30 something years on this planet? (these are in no particular order, except the first one, that’s a solid #1)

1. Pray often. Never underestimate the power of prayer.

2. It is the PEOPLE that matter most!

And thankfully I got to spend my b-day with all my people. There wasn’t one moment that I was alone. It was beautiful. It started with donut breakfast with my kiddos. Then my dear friend Mary drove over in the snow with her baby in tow and surprised me with a cake that she had baked. I was awestruck! The company and the cake were amazing! Shortly after she left I had another friend stop by with her daughters and the girls all played while we moms finally had the opportunity to chat which was a gift in itself. She has 4 kiddos and I have 3 and between the 7 kiddos we hardly ever get a word in edgewise (this is when texting comes in handy). Then in the evening my in-laws came over to watch the kiddos so my true love (just to clarify I am talking about my husband, not coffee) and I could go out to dinner. Throughout the day I received birthday wishes from many friends via texts and Facebook (thank you everyone, you each mean so much to me and I great appreciate you taking the time to remember my b-day).

The next day (did I mention when your b-day is on a Thursday or Friday you can celebrate it all weekend…I am pretty sure it states that somewhere in the Bill of Rights. Lol!) I attended my BFF’s Bridal shower. Seeing your best friend absolutely glow with pure joy over finding the love of her life is such a magnificent gift…second only to life itself. After the Bridal Shower I hit the road and headed to Maumee Bay State Park for a fun filled family weekend!

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3. Love unconditionally.

4. Forgive unconditionally.

5. Joy often follows those who humble themselves.

Truth be told,I did tell my husband, on my birthday weekend that I was wrong, he was right, and I was sorry. Sometimes we need to simply admit our faults, own up to our mistakes, ask forgiveness, and move on. Do not dwell.

6. Focus your attention on the things that matter in life…there will always be laundry and dishes but we never know when someone’s lifetime is up.

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Here is a picture that expresses this sentiment. I had much more important things to do then to clean the room, like going sledding, going on a nature hike, and swimming!!!

7. Wisdom is a gift and you’d be a fool to trade it for youth.

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I went to Merle Norman on my birthday and I was told I could receive a gift package at a special rate. Guess what the gift package entailed? Wrinkle care! As if! I will wear my wrinkles proudly thank you very much!

8. Lower your expectations. Better yet, eliminate all expectations. That way you are never disappointed.

 

9. Turn off your phone! And enjoy the beautiful gifts around you, like nature and a sunset.

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10. Focus your attention on the right numbers. Not the numbers on the scale but rather your years of wisdom….it is also wise to know your cholesterol, triglyceride level, and blood pressure so that you can continue to grow in your wisdom.

11. Don’t sit on the sidelines  of life, or the chaise lounge at the pool watching everyone else have fun. Put on your bathingsuit and go swimming with your kiddos…make memories.

Moms, put on your bathing suits, no matter what size you are and enjoy making memories with your kids! Stop waiting to live your life until you are the perfect size. You are beautiful and perfect as you are and those who truly matter will know this about you…forget about the rest of them.

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12. Never be afraid to ask for help. When you do so not only do you get assistance but you allow someone else to feel needed. And who knows, maybe you asking for help from that person ends up dramatically changing their outlook on life.

I have to be honest; this getting older thing is pretty awesome! Each year I grow more comfortable in my own skin and my soul grows closer to God.

Have you found yourself growing older and wiser? What is the most significant thing you have learned at your age right now?

Sunday’s Food for the Soul: The BEST You

Every morning, as I am dropping off my kiddos to school I have a ritual of reminders and one challenge.  When we are a block away from school I recite the following….

I love you. You are a child of the Lord. Challenge for today: Help a friend in need (these change daily but often have the same message…be kind, compassionate, and treat others the way you would like to be treated). Then the best part…

I start off by stating, “And remember, all you have to be today is….” and they all express “the best me I can be”. Then they are off.

That last statement has always been a favorite of mine. How beautiful and magnificent those otherwise simplest words become when placed together. What a perfect message and motto to live by. How marvelous to know that you do not have to live up to anyone’s standards or expectations but your own. And how important it is for children to know that they should not be just like every other child in their school, for each is special, each has unique talents to share, and each can learn so much from the others.

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It got me thinking, many adults could use this reminder. Many adults compare themselves to others, to coworkers, other mothers, etc. This can bring about insecurities and uncomfortable feelings of inadequacies. God has given each of us special talents and when all those talents come together it can be a symphony of perfection.  But unfortunately we try so hard to be like others that we lose ourselves. A Symphony cannot exist with all flutes!

 

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We not only compare our accomplishments, skills, and experiences, but we also get superficial with our comparisons. We compare our hair, facial features, body types to others and some suffer gravely because they feel like they do not own up to society’s idea of the perfect body.  What is the saying? “Everyone with curly hairs wants straight; everyone with straight wants curly?” I can’t even bear the thought of a world where we all look the same.  Rock what God has given you, red hair, curly hair, full sized woman, petite woman, etc. be genuine and watch how your self-confidence can soar.

 

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This week’s homework:

When you catch yourself admiring someone else’s talent, looks, skills, and/or accomplishments embrace it for what it is, admire their strengths then stop! Do not compare yourself to them. Do not even take one step down that path of self-destruction. Remember you are an important part of the symphony of life. We need YOUR talent, YOUR skill, YOUR confidence, not another flute.

 

Have you ever caught yourself comparing yourself to others? Have you ever experienced jealousy, self-pity, or loathing as a consequence of the comparison? How did you stop?