Someone 8 months out of a 14-year marriage feels a pull towards company. That pull is indistinguishable from the pull towards a partner, and acting on it early tends to reproduce the marriage that ended. Loneliness and readiness produce the same urge and require opposite responses. The signals that separate them are known, and none of them involve how much time has passed.
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Let’s talk about the elephant in the dating room: age. When you re-enter the dating world, especially in the digital era, it becomes one of the first things people notice, judge, filter, and sometimes obsess over. Age ranges are literally built into dating apps now. Swipe left, swipe right, set the limits, move on. But here’s the question worth asking: Does age really matter as much as we think it does?
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A little while ago, I casually announced something that felt anything but casual to me: I’m officially dating again.
Cue dramatic music. 😅
Dating, simply hearing the word makes me cringe. The anxiety, body image issues, self-deprecating internal dialogue, and the endless list of unwritten rules associated with the word. And to think, those were all concerns I had back when I was 20 years old. It was tough enough dating back in 2000 when people still approached one another in public. When I had a 20-year-old’s body, energy, and brain, well, perhaps not the brain.
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