On this date 9 years ago my husband and I stood before our friends, family, Priest, and God and proclaimed our love, trust, bond, and commitment to one another in Holy Matrimony. I remember walking down the aisle with such joy in my heart. I had made a considerable amount of important decisions in my life but when I said “Yes, I will marry you” that was by far the most important! Two years and much planning later, I walked down that aisle stood before everyone, and confidently proclaimed “I do”.
9 years later and I still do. Our marriage has grown and evolved over time and with each life-altering event we learn more about one another. Of course, the most life-altering event is the birth of our children, which has greatly transformed each of us, it is precious to see the amazing father my husband has become. But every day can bring about a new challenge or even path in the journey called Holy Matrimony. So I collated a few tips that I feel are helpful to remember when entering or maintaining a marriage.
- I am a work in progress. I am not perfect, I am human.
- My spouse is not perfect, he is human too. “I would rather live with his dirty socks on the floor and computer bag by the front door than live without him”.
- Love and value each other and not “stuff”.
- If you are wrong, mistaken, or did not follow through on a promise admit it, and own it! Apologize, rectify, and most importantly, move on!
- Always remember the golden rule: Treat your spouse how you would like to be treated.
- Think before you speak. Is what you are about to say valid in the long run or are you simply experiencing a moment of frustration? How is what you are about to say going to influence your spouse’s day?
- The silent treatment is more harmful than helpful.
- You can’t give your spouse the responsibility to make you happy. Genuine happiness can only come from you. That being said…..
- Things will not always go your way or how you envisioned them unfolding. When this occurs you have options; this is where that wise saying comes into play, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react”.
- Money will come and money will go but the memories will last a lifetime.
- Always kiss each other goodbye and end a phone conversation with “I love you”.
- Value and love your spouse, not “stuff” or materials. Obviously, you need to maintain your livelihood but at what cost? Is a large home, fancy car, designer clothes, etc. worth both of you working late and never seeing each other?
- Unplug and shut off screens when speaking with your spouse, and give your spouse your undivided attention. Isn’t that why you got married?
- It is called Holy Matrimony for a reason. Here comes another valuable saying, “The family that prays together stays together”. And trust me, in marriage, there is a lot of praying!
Marriage is tough at times and those who say otherwise are not being truthful. However, it is also one of the most amazing journeys. It is comforting to know that I have a witness, partner, lover, and friend to share this journey with and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Have any valuable lessons or tips to share about marriage? Maybe a story to share?
2 thoughts on “Tips for Staying Married”
Love everything aout this post, Kat! Happy belated anniversary! PS seeing Mya and Max as babes melts my heart, they all look so much alike and are all beautiful like their mama! Xoxox
You’re so sweet, thanks Allie.