Reasons #10, #9, & # 8

There are 101 reasons why 3 year olds rule and here are #10, #9, #8…….

We attended a Bowling Birthday Party this past weekend and I managed to capture the interaction, the joy, and pure beauty between our 3 year old and her friend. The images eloquently capture the essence of 3 in  all its glory.

 

#10 Teamwork/Loves learning to work together….

The bowling ball was really heavy so they came up with the perfect solution, teamwork! Watching the two of them slowing carry the bowling ball to the wrong lane, then the correct lane, and discussing how to actually get the ball down the lane was priceless.

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#9 Friendly…

After they got the ball down the alley they grabbed each other’s hands, it was so natural. It had me thinking about how many times in life I would like to be able to just grab someone’s hand and say, without any words, “I am hear for you, we will get through this together”.

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I love the fact that children have such innocence, everyone is their friend. Why just the other day we were at Costco checking out and there was a little girl in the lane next to us. The girls instantly gravitated towards one another and started talking about their boots and favorite colors. You would have thought they were long lost friends but they had just met.  How beautiful the 3 year old mind is, it hasn’t been tainted by what society deems acceptable. It instantly sees the similarities we each have rather than the differences.  

 

# 8 Expressive….

After the ball rolled halfway down the alley she started celebrating! Mind you the ball hadn’t even reached the vicinity of the pins yet, but in her mind their endeavor was successful for they were able to get the ball to go down the correct lane together. And that called for celebration. When she celebrates she expresses her pure joy with her entire body.

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How magnificent that at 3 years old we can see the small victories of everyday tasks and take pleasure in it. The question begs, when do we become so hard on ourselves? When do we lose finding the joy in the small victories?

Monster Jam Fun!

My most favorite thing to do on this planet is to enjoy new experiences as a family. And yesterday’s experience ranks in my top ten! Yesterday we had the opportunity to attend Monster Jam! But wait, it gets better.  First we had Pizza in the Pits! The kiddos got to dig in the dirt, color, play, see the trucks up close, eat pizza and other yummy treats, and best of all, meet the drivers and get autographs!!

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I have to be honest; the extent of my knowledge when it came to a Monster Trucks did not venture far beyond my son’s Hot Wheels trucks (which, on a SAHM budget doubles quite nicely as a back massage…just have them use your back as the track). So to see a Monster truck up close and actually look at all the workings was rather fascinating.

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The massive size of the wheels was astonishing. I was in shock when the driver said a new tire, one tire, cost between $2,500 and $3,000. And I thought the tires for the Yukon were pricy!!

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The kiddos were so excited when they met the drivers, especially our 6 year old. He became a little star struck when he asked for their autographs; I never realized the volume of his voice could go so low…now I know. Haha! He really enjoyed the experience, in fact all 3 of them did. I was a little unsure of how they would react to the actual Monster Jam.

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After Pizza in the Pit we located our seats. One word, AMAZING! The seats were perfect! We had a nice view of everything and the best part; Grave Digger and Dragon Breath were parked just beneath us. Those were the kiddos’ favorites.
The show started with a rumble and to my astonishment our 3 year old loved it! I was concerned because she is deathly afraid of thunder or any loud noises and apparently the bond she had made with the trucks before the show was enough to squash any anxiety.

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And then the highlight of the night occurred…..

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Grave Digger flipped!! And with it all the kids!! Our son thought it was so awesome especially when they had to call in reinforcements to help flip it over.

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And then our 3 year old lost it. She literally started crying because she thought the truck would be broken forever. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that our 3 year old little girl would be crying over a Monster truck. Nor did I ever think she would enjoy it so much.

We had such a wonderful time. It truly was fun for the entire family. The kiddos are already looking forward to going again! And in the meantime they are having fun recreating the event with their own Monster truck tracks, play-dough, and Monster trucks. Haha!

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Have you ever been to a Monster Jam event? Have you seen a Monster truck up close? Are your kiddo’s fans of Monster trucks? Do you find those Hot Wheel ones all over the house?

Disclosure: I was given seats to Pizza in the Pit, tickets to Monster Jam, and kiddos received Hot Wheels Monster Jam Maximum deconstruction system, and other goodies. No other compensation was received, and all opinions expressed are my own.

Redirecting our Family’s Focus for Lent

I have been reading the book, Balancing it All, by Candace Cameron Bure for our playgroup’s book club. It has really brought some topics to light regarding family and what my influence is a parent and wife.  It has had me reflecting on ways to redirect my family’s focus and I cannot think of a better time to employ positive change than during Lent.

Coming to the conclusion that I have been slacking as a mom was not easy to admit. Slacking how? Well, structure for one. 2014 has not started off well. With all the snow days and the uncertainty of what the week holds I have become too flexible, too lenient, and structure has fallen by the wayside. I have fallen into a horrible pattern of just doing things myself.  Landry, dishes, cleaning rooms, emptying trash, etc. to the point of exhaustion. I had never worked so hard and yet, I was being a lazy mom.  I haven’t been nurturing in the evening, I raise my voice more often than I would like to admit, and I have not been doing the things I enjoy doing with the children, like reading stories and saying the Rosary in the evening.Thus I have come to the conclusion that the following need to be implemented in order for our family to redirect our focus on what is truly important, growing together in faith.

I have narrowed it down to 3 main areas in our lives that distract us away from God and God’s plan for family: Stress, Screens, and Materialism.

1)      Start our Mornings off right. Instead of the kids having breakfast alone while my husband showers and gets ready for work and I run around like a chicken with its head cut off in search of pants, clean underwear, homework, etc. Everyone will be responsible  (with a little guidance from mom) for their own clothes, book bags, etc. the night before and we have breakfast together. The family table need not be limited to dinner. Why not start the day off together. Over breakfast I will be reading LENT FOR CHILDREN, A Thought a Day, by Family Feast and Feria. My hope is to then have a short discussion and end with a prayer.

2)      Be accountable for Screen Time. We currently have four televisions in our home and a laptop. The television in the living room has the Wii, Netflix, and cable. The television in the basement is hooked up to a DVD for viewing movies. And the laptop has educational websites and games the children enjoy. Just the other day I realized that between video games, Netflix shows, educational websites, and girls watching a movie that we were each entertained by a screen for 5 hours straight!! It is embarrassing to have to admit but owning it is the first step. We will be eliminating cable. But let’s be honest, that isn’t the main culprit. Netflix, though amazing as it is, is very addicting. I mean who doesn’t long to know what happens in the next episode? You definitely need to have self control when it comes to Netflix. But sometimes that willpower doesn’t kick in naturally so, in order to limit screen time I have purchased a kitchen timer for each of the children and we will be implementing the 2 hours or less screen time chart. Each week the children will receive the chart and they will be held accountable for their daily screen time.

3)      Stop being a slave to the stuff! I spend way too much time assisting the children with cleanup of their rooms and family room. I would rather be spending that time doing something fun with them/as a family. The problem is they simply have way to much stuff.  More stuff than their little minds can process. No child needs 30 Barbie’s; in fact the most they could play with at one time is 2, maybe 3. They also have an exorbitant amount of books, some are even duplicated. What we don’t have is adequate storage or space for all the stuff. Thus the stuff has got to go!  I would love to sell tickets for $25 to enter my house and take what you can carry then use the funds for a family vacation. Unfortunately the hubby wasn’t to keen on a bunch of strangers perusing through our home so the next option, downsize. All nicer items will be sold to a secondhand store (children could use that money for their rice bowls), other items will be donated, and some have simply seen better days. I also like the fact that through this process the children can learn what is truly important and it isn’t the stuff, it is the people, their relationships, and most importantly their relationship with God. It is hard to have a relationships with God when you are surrounded by so many distractions a.k.a. Legos, Barbie’s, Power Rangers, cars, princess, etc. would love to do what this mother did, and who knows once I get started we still might…Why I took My Kids Toys Away.

I will also be incorporating the activities on this site, 40 Ideas for 40 Days.

Does your family have Lenten practices? How do you redirect your focus during Lent? Please share.

Preparing for First Holy Communion

2014 is a very exciting year in our household and more specifically in our 2nd grader’s life. She will be receiving her first Holy Communion in the Spring. Why is the First Holy Communion so sacred? As she expressed, “it is the most special gift in the world, Jesus will be entering my heart”.

I tell you most solemnly, if you do not eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink His blood, you will not have life in you. Anyone who does eat my flesh and drink my blood has eternal life, and I shall raise him up on the last day. For my flesh is real food and my blood is real drink. He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood lives in me and I live in him. As I, who am sent by the living Father, myself draw life from the Father, so whoever eats me will draw life from me. This is the bread that came down from heaven; not like the bread that your ancestors ate; they are dead, but anyone who eats this bread will live forever” (John 6:48-58).

In preparation for the BIG day her Godmother offered to purchase her dress and veil. Which is a huge gift in itself but what was even better was the experience of going shopping for the gown and veil.  I could feel the presence of the Holy Spirit when my mother, sister (her Godmother), my daughter, and I spent the day together.  The only thing that could have added to the experience was if my grandmother was with us. To have 4 generations together would have been amazing but I find comfort in knowing that she was with us in spirit.

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Her eyes lit up when she walked into the fitting room and put on the first dress. Meanwhile my eyes started to tear up a little. It felt like just yesterday I was carefully removing her baptismal gown and now here I was helping her try on First Communion dresses. Where does the time go?

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She has been preparing for this day for quite some time. She attends her catechism classes, Mass on Sundays, and the occasional daily Mass, we discuss the virtues and Saints in our Little Flower Girls’ Club but beyond that she has had an interest in the bible, the life of Jesus, and longing to grow closer to God.  Which, if I am being 100% honest I have my mother to thank, and her mother, and all the past mothers in our lineage who have made faith a priority. It seems like with each generation the secular world has grown and infiltrated the home and family more and more. The invention of the telephone, television, computer, cell phones, iPads, etc. has brought on new challenges for families and at times temptations. Each generation has had to learn the importance of moderation and work though temptation.  And my generation is no exception.

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It was such a magical day. I wish every mother could experience what I did that day.

I know there are many people out there looking for something but they don’t know what it is…something to fill their hearts with joy. And they think they will find it in a fulfilling job, in a fun hobby, maybe in the way other’s make them feel, but they wont. That joy, that security, that peace, is found in faith. If it feels like their is something missing in your life look to your faith. Stop making excuses.

Note to busy parents,

I understand it is difficult to get to church, trust me I understand. You have had a busy week and the last thing you want to do is go to church in the morning. I know how much work it is because I do it. I get my kiddos ready, park the car, trail through the snow in freezing cold temperatures, drop off  the younger 2 at the Good Shepherds program, head back out into the cold over to the church, and then attend Mass with my 2nd grader. I do all that solo at least 52 times a year (not counting other days of obligation) And there are some mornings when I am literally in tears because I know that I have to be the one in charge again, I have to get everyone going again, morning 7! And I am tired, cold, and worn but once I get to church and hear God’s words, words that seem to have been spoken/ written specifically for me, my life, my current struggle, I am refreshed and ready for a new week. It is the getting there that the devil tempts me.  He tempts me by focusing my attention on what isn’t important, what others are doing with their time. Why should I have to go to church when others are not? I worked hard all week too, why should they relax when I have to keep going? Then I am reminded of all Jesus gave for me. The fact that God has entrusted me with 3 little souls to nurture and guide, that isn’t something to be taken lightly.  I don’t go to church for me. I don’t go to church for my children. I go to church because I do everything I do for the glory of the one who made me (totally a line from the Steven Curtis Chapman song) and he knows what’s best for me and my family and that means going to church.

Parents, making certain your child has a relationship with God has never been more difficult and yet more necessary than now. Please make the effort. You are stronger than you know.

Do you find it difficult to make it to church? What is holding you back? Or do you go religiously (no pun intended) and if so what motivates you?

Conversations with the Kiddos

They are right; kids do say the darndest things. While just this morning I found myself laughing out loud at the kiddo’s breakfast table conversations. The topics today were urinals, zombies, and My Little Ponies. Ha-ha!  Our 6 year old totally grossed out the girls when he informed them what a urinal was…nothing like taking a bite of your Cheerios then hearing about how your brother pees on everyone else’s pee. Meanwhile our 3 year old was trying to convince our 6 year old that Zombies are so cute and sweet (I am pretty sure she has no idea what Zombies really are…and I am not correcting her). And our poor 8 year old just wanted to have, as she put it, a “normal” conversation. It was one of those mornings where I wish I would have charged the battery on the video camera…who needs Good Morning America when I have quality entertainment in my own kitchen. Ha-ha!

(I am all about finding the humor in the ordinary and keeping it real so I thought I would share a few pictures of a typical day around our house. Please note I have at least attempted to clean. The vacuum is visible. But more important things popped up, like a Ninja, a dancing purple and pink cat, and a princess…just a typical day)

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Here are a few additional comments my kiddos made this week that had me laughing out loud.

Background info: My hubby went to a conference over the weekend and was given a lanyard with his name and information on it. He sat it on the dining room table when he got home that night. When our son woke up he requested that he speak with me in private. So we walked into the next room and he said…

“Mom, I don’t want you to get too nervous. Dad is in the CIA. I found his badge”. LOL!

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Background info: Our son was acting like he was on his death bed (turned out to be a man/boy cold…ha-ha!) So we went to the doctors. When we pulled up there were two Taxis waiting out front. Upon seeing them my son expressed….

“Wow, they came all the way from New York!!”

 I asked, “Why New York?”

“Because that is where all Taxi cabs come from”. LOL!

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Background info: I was in the kitchen doing dishes and preparing dinner when my 3 year old came in with a piece of paper with ‘pretend’ writing on it. She looked at me with a very serious expression and declared…

“MOM, this contract doesn’t CUT IT!”

It was so random all I could do was LOL! To which she replied…

“BAD MOMMY!” and walked out of the room. No more Shark Tank for her, ha-ha!

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So what have your kiddos said that had you laughing out loud? Does a typical day around your home resemble ours? Did you ever get around to vacuuming this week or did more important things pop up?

Toledo Zoo = Winter Fun!

We had originally planned on just going to the zoo for an hour or two since it was so cold. The high for the day was only 23. But surprisingly thanks to our warm clothing, the sun, and plenty of heated buildings to pop in and out of we ended up staying for 5 hours! I was shocked when I glanced at the time.

We had such a wonderful time. The animals were so active in the cold weather and we had the opportunity to spend time in buildings that we would otherwise walk past on warmer days, like the reptile house. Here are the pics from our fun filled day at the Toledo Zoo…

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We didn’t get a chance to see the gorillas or orangutans, which are my favorite so we will be going back! So, how do you decide what animals you will visit first at the zoo? What is your favorite animal at the zoo? Have you ever visited the zoo in the winter? Awesome, right!?

Lessons Learned through the Mourning Process

 

Well, our cat’s lifetime came to end Tuesday night. The children all petted her goodnight and went to bed.  Then around 9pm she took her last breath with one of my hands on her head and the other on her paw. Surprisingly it wasn’t as unpleasant as I had anticipated.

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I had read that most animals, specifically cats disappear when it is their time. But surprisingly she did the opposite. In fact she wanted to be in the family room with all of us that last evening. She mustered up as much energy as she could to get downstairs.  I think she was comforted by the sounds of the family and she was able to lie near her companion, our dog.

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It was fascinating to see how respectful he was to her. He would normally be sniffing her and irritating her but he just sat near her and was pleasant company.

Lessons learned through the Mourning Process…..

My husband is amazing…

I am so thankful for my husband. I think he had the most difficult task of all of us, he dropped her off at the Vet’s after she passed. He had to say the final goodbye and hand her over.

The children have compassion for one another…

Our 6 & 8 year olds tend to irritate one another at times. Why just the other day our 6 year old was trying to place his dirty underwear in his sister’s pillow case….classic sibling move, right!?  With all the snow days lately the level of irritation has only increased and it had me concerned. But when I witnessed our 6 year old run into our 8 year olds arms and let out a huge yelp followed by many tears and the way she gave him a big hug and consoled him with comforting words I knew they would be okay. The image is burned to memory; it was so beautiful, so precious, and so genuine. I was comforted by the fact that if anything should ever happened to me or my husband the children will be there for each other. At that moment it felt like we, as parents, were definitely doing something right.

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Every person and every child mourns differently….

Our daughter, the 8 year old, is comforted by conversations about the times she enjoyed with our cat. Our 3 year old enjoys seeing pictures of her, especially ones she is in with her.

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Meanwhile our son prefers to express himself via Crayola…..

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We are so fortunate….

It has been a crazy and highly emotional past week but we have learned much about each other. We know that Sable brought our family much joy and that she will be deeply missed. But we are thankful for the time we had together. We also know that there are others in this world who are deeply mourning the loss of loved ones and we are keeping all those souls in our prayers.

Need your suggestions….

The children have requested that we do something to remember Sable. For those of you who have lost a pet did you do anything special to remember them? Maybe you purchased something special to commemorate your pet? Did something as a family? Any suggests you have are greatly appreciated.

Valentine Photograph Cards

Since the kiddos had another snow day today I figured it was the perfect opportunity to get a jump start on their Valentine cards.  So they put on their church clothes, grabbed some neat accessories, we put on some fun music, and snapped away! The children had a blast…and I did too!

After reviewing their pics they chose their favorites and we added fun captions. Now all that’s left to do is print them off and attach candy. The candies we are using are, Hersey Kisses, Hersey Hugs, Snickers, Twix, and Blow Pops. See if you can guess which candy goes with each Valentine.

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And here are two more just for the fun of it…….

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What are your little ones giving for Valentines day?

Conversations with the Kids

Parenthood is demanding, exhausting, amazing, fulfilling, messy, and if you’re lucky from time-to-time you will be graced with some humor. So without further ado, here are a few conversations that I have had over the past week with the kiddos that had me laughing out loud (I am pretty sure that is the first time I actually typed that entire phrase). Lol!

Conversation with our 2nd grader in the kitchen having an after school snack with her sister…..

2nd grader: Mom, do you want to hear something funny?

Me: Always!

2nd grader: It might be a little inappropriate.  I just need to warn you of that first. I don’t want you to get in trouble.

Me: Thank you for warning me. That was very considerate of you. I will try not to get myself in trouble with myself!?

2nd grader: Yep, I am a considerate person. Okay. Mom, say ‘I’ and then spell cup.

Me: I C U P

3 years old: That’s okay. I see you pee all the time mommy.

Meanwhile our 2nd grader is laughing hysterically and the 3 year old has no idea why that was remotely funny…she sees everyone pee. Haha!

 

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The kiddos and I went to Target to get a gift for a Wedding Shower. We went to print off the registry then planned on making a mad dash to the restrooms…that Starbucks Venti Green Tea might have been a bad idea!

Kindergartener: Mom can I do the computer?

3 year old: I can do it! She exclaimed while hitting random keys

2nd grader: Mom I know how to do this.

Me: It is Max’s turn.

Kindergartener: what do I do?

Me: Start by hitting any key.

Kindergartener/Max looks frantically up and down the keyboard.

Me: Just hit any key! (Now crossing my legs)

Kindergartener: I can’t find it.

2nd grader: Just hit any of them.

Kindergartener: I can’t find any!

2nd grader: Just hit any of the keys. There is no any key.

Kindergartener/Max: If there is no any key why do they want me to hit it? He declared with much frustration.

Me: Lol! I have to pee. Let’s pee then we will find that darn any key.

 

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She did NOT just say that!!!……….

While dining at a local establishment I took our youngest to the restroom 3 times (is it sad that that seems normal? haha!). By our 3rd visit I had to go too. So I went. And while I was going she yelled, loud enough for the entire restaurant to hear, “Mom you have a BIG butt!” Lol! I could hear the woman in the next stall trying to contain her laughter. Haha!

 

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Losing a Pet

10 years ago my husband came home with a big surprise. A cat! After we lost a kitten to leukemia 3 months prior we decided that any future cat would be from a rescue home.  So we welcomed Sable to the family. Since she was from a rescue facility we really didn’t know too much about her. We didn’t know her exact age but they guessed around 3 years old. She was an outdoor cat when she was rescued. She was spayed by the rescue house; they said she had a couple litters. Life was about to change drastically for our little Sable. She went from fending for herself outdoors to becoming an indoor cat and sharing the home with another treasured pet, our dog.

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Over the course of 10 years she would help us welcome each of our 3 children into the family home. She learned where to pee and where to not pee (pee in the hubby’s shoes, not mine, lol!), she learned that the dog would always and forever be sniffing her butt, she learned that little ones were not always so gentle when it comes to tails and ears, and that the littlest loves her so much it is wise to run if an older child or adult isn’t around.  She is clearly much wiser after her time and experiences with our family. Oh how the children are going to miss her.

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Since her main companion is a dog she has adopted some dog –like behaviors. She is very social and love sitting on laps, being pet, and receiving attention. She makes a mad dash to the kitchen when she hears the rustling of her treat bag and sits just like the dog in order to receive her treat. Her and the dog have such a similar relationship to the children it is amusing. In fact on evenings when the children are in bed and the house is quiet they usually start playing around….the cat always wins. And then seconds later you will find them curled up together and the cat licking the dogs face. Oh how the dog is going to miss her.

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She is my little shadow. She likes racing me up and down the stairs during the day…she always wins. Haha! She snuggles up with me whenever I sit down. She sleeps just above my head on my pillow at night. She is so affectionate. She also drives me nuts at times with the messes and hairballs but they are all worth it! Before her I was never a cat person…I am not even sure if I would define myself as one now…I am a Sable person. Haha! Oh how I am going to miss her.

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Over Christmas break we noticed a lump on her belly. We took her to the Veterinarian. They diagnosed her with breast cancer. Her prognosis was 3 weeks. It has been 3 weeks since that visit.  The mass continues to grow and now she starts bleeding at times. This is so hard. I understand that every living creature has a different lifetime and hers is coming to an end but when children are involved it amplifies the pain. As a mom all I want to do is ease their heartache and pain, I want to make it all better but they have to learn that mourning is a part of life. I have to allow them to feel, hurt, cry, and go through the process. To teach them that life will have pains and heartache and the appropriate way to process all those emotions.

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I am just so grateful for the time we had, she’s been such a blessing to our family and has helped each family member grow in some form or another (Oh the things you learn from having a pet…patience, love, gentleness, compassion, responsibility, etc.). We will treasure the memories always.